EP 334: You are a Bad-Ass – Time to Show Up Like One This Year
Although the last few years have been pretty heavy, the New Year is always an opportunity to reset, reinvigorate ourselves, and set some new intentions to achieve great things.
This episode is about owning your power, showing up, and standing in your power in the New Year.
It’s a different situation for each of us. But regardless of where we are in our lives and our business, we can make this powerful shift when we are honest with ourselves and stop blaming other things for our situation.
This podcast was inspired by my experience in getting partially sucked into some challenges and drama in my company in the past year, and the lessons I’ve learned.
You see, being an entrepreneur and being creative is about carving your own path. It requires you to be brave, be your own person, be your own boss and always break out of the binds or the bounds that keep you small.
This is a constant journey of self-discovery, not a destination.
Personally, last year was a rough year for my company and me. Many things were going on inside the business and causing a lot of problems. I’ve had to let go of a couple of people in my team and work on a very bootstrapped team for a period of time.
And things started infiltrating into everything I did. There were several months where I felt like a victim, I was stressed out all the time, freaking out, having panic attacks, and it was tough to break out of.
Until I realized… “Oh, this is just a story and a pattern.” I learned that I accepted mediocrity and allowed it to infiltrate into my business, instead of focusing on success.
See, success is an internal game and an individual experience. And it all starts with the beliefs that we were raised with.
When you operate from a success mindset you have the POWER within you to overcome adversity, change your situation at any time and do amazing things to switch your life and business.
And it’s never too late.
So here are some tools and action plans that can help you transcend your current reality so that you can step into your higher self and be the bad-ass that you are meant to be.
Identify the beliefs or stories that no longer serve you.
There are some beliefs that you could be holding onto that can turn into “creativity crushers” or “success crushers.”
Make a list of all these limiting beliefs you have, and I want you to flip them to create positive affirmations and turn them into something else.
Here are a few negative beliefs and the bad-ass mindset to flip them:
Negative: It’s hard to make money as an artist.
Bad-ass: Making money as an artist is my right. I deserve to make money as an artist.
Negative: If I share my idea, someone will steal it.
Bad-ass: Community and collaboration with other artists help everyone rise up, including me.
Negative: If you’re an artist, you must be starving.
Bad-ass: I’m a thriving artist, and I’m here to show the world my value and get paid for it.
Negative: Creatives aren’t good at business.
Bad-ass: At different stages in business, you’re going to hit many kinds of glass ceilings and be put into different types of boxes. And Creatives are the best people when it comes to breaking glass ceilings and thinking out of the box. So truthfully, Creatives are the best people for business.
Negative: I’m not good enough, talented enough, and have few connections.
Bad-ass: I’m striving for progress, not perfection. This is about the journey, not the destination.
Now, make your own list and repeat them to yourself 25 times in the morning and 25 times in the evening. Record yourself saying it and listen to it because this is a potent exercise you can do this year.
Identify how or where you are operating out of FEAR!
If you don’t free yourself and start operating from a growth and success mindset, it becomes really hard to own your power.
Remember, you are the only person who can give away your power.
So start setting boundaries and stop giving away your power to other people while still following the rules.
Identify all these fears one by one and know which ones aren’t working for you.
You see, there are a lot of fears like:
- Fear of failure
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of being an outcast for your opinion
- Fear of being called names
- Fear of dying
- Fear of abandonment
- Fear of hurting someone’s feelings
And these fears will trickle into many things in your life and business. So write down a list of all the ways that you’re letting fear eke out into your life and take control over your business.
Then write down ONE thing that scares you and terrifies you that you’re going to try this year.
I’ll give you an easy one – Go ask for a sale from someone.
Write Your Bad-Ass List
One of the worst things people do is focus on their weaknesses instead of what they’re really good at.
Personally, I know that my biggest gift is my creativity and ability to create strategies and ideas and help people with their businesses.
My strengths are not figuring out broken systems or tech in my company. So it’s these complex things for me that I always hire out first because they are way over my head.
That said, I know you are amazing at many things, and I want you to acknowledge them right now.
Try this exercise for the New Year. Write a gratitude list, or what I’d like to call your Bad-ass List.
Write 4 things that you are a bad-ass at every single day, like:
- What are your biggest strengths?
- What are you naturally talented in business?
- What is the thing that makes you an incredible friend or partner?
- Why do people want to buy from you?
Visualize What You Want
This is the most crucial exercise and could be a game-changer for your New Year.
Visualization can happen in meditation, journal entry, or something that you can continuously do throughout the year.
This exercise can take anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes a day. And I want you to imagine.
- What does my perfect day look like?
- As I wake up from bed, what’s happening in those first few moments of the day?
- How am I showing up for myself?
- How am I showing up for my kids or family?
- How am I interacting with my partner? How are we connecting?
- What am I doing every day in my business?
- What kind of work am I doing?
- How much money am I taking home?
- How much money am I making?
- Am I reaching my goals?
- Who are my strategic partners?
- What companies do I want to work with?
- Who are those people that I feel so aligned with that we’re just doing great things in the world?
Whatever it is, keep visualizing it. I want you to think through this lens because it is a really powerful way for you to get out of your own way and remember who you are.
It’s time to take back your power and own it—Uplevel yourself into a powerful existence where you become the person you always wanted to be.
Because at the end of the day, you are a freakin’ bad-ass!
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